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Should I Start a Diet?: Rethinking Your Relationship with Your Body

January 21, 2022

coping patterns, family dynamics, poor self-esteem, self-care, self-image

While it may not have been the first time I was critical of my body, the first time I remember being critical of my body, or of objectifying my own body, is when I was 8-years-old. I was watching something on TV and it was definitely not a show for children. On the show, the it-girl started talking about her weight loss, going as far…

Why Am I So Tired?: A Case for Rest

September 15, 2021

anxiety counseling, anxiety therapy, coping patterns, depression, depression therapy, productivity, rest, self-image, trauma therapy, work stress

When I ask the people in my life how they’re feeling, one of the most common responses I receive is, “Tired.” And I can’t tell you how often I will set my sights on having an early night, only to find myself sitting in front of my laptop and television (simultaneously) way past my bedtime. In our busy and hectic day-to-day lives, it has become…

What is Toxic Positivity? And How to Respond to Your Feelings Instead

August 19, 2021

anxiety counseling, anxiety therapy, coping patterns, depression, depression therapy, trauma, trauma therapy

Even after years of doing this work, I’ve had moments when I am feeling sad or frustrated and I’ll catch myself thinking, “well, things could be worse!” While this seems pretty benign at first glance (or first thought…), I’ve come to understand how this falls under the umbrella of toxic positivity. What is toxic positivity? It’s the tendency to suppress, ignore, or disregard how one…

How Can I Feel Safe?: Grounding Techniques for Anxiety

July 16, 2021

anxiety counseling, anxiety therapy, coping patterns, depression, depression therapy, trauma, trauma therapy

Anxiety can be overwhelming. It can be hard to stay grounded and connect with ourselves when our heads are swimming, our hearts are pounding, and we’re drenched in sweat. In those moments, it can be difficult to soothe ourselves or find any sense of safety. Having a “grounding toolkit,” or strategies we’ve practiced ahead of time when we’re not feeling anxious, can make a huge…

But What If It All Goes Right?: The Power of Imagination

June 17, 2021

anxiety counseling, anxiety therapy, coping patterns, depression, depression therapy, gender identity, self-image, sexuality, trauma, trauma therapy

When was the last time you thought about your imagination? If you’re anything like me, it may have been while playing pretend with your kids, or maybe laughing at the wild things they come up with while in imaginative play. The importance of imagination on a child’s development cannot be overemphasized. Children seem to have to play – it’s not a conscious decision they make,…

Am I Codependent If I Enjoy Having My Needs Met & Meeting The Needs of Others?: Interdependence 101

February 17, 2021

communication challenges, coping patterns, family dynamics, relationship challenges, social support

What does it mean to “need” others (and to be needed in return) the exact right amount? Even though I’m a therapist myself, I’ve struggled with this in my own relationships. When I was younger, I sometimes relied on my romantic relationships for validation and sense of self, and was often crushed when I didn’t feel supported enough. Now, I’m in a different place: I’m…

Can I Move Towards My Goals While Resisting Perfectionism?: Getting Past the Inner Critic

January 16, 2021

anxiety therapy, coping patterns, depression therapy, relationship challenges, trauma therapy, work stress

This past fall, we moved some things around in our previously neglected backyard. We thought having a dedicated play space would help our kids, as well as afford us more breathing room during the pandemic. I began starting evenings with vision boards, shopping lists, and poring over Craigslist and Facebook Marketplace for deals. I wanted to make sure anything we bought fit the greater “vision.”…

How Do We Keep Going In Hard Times?: Recognizing Our Own Resilience May Help

December 16, 2020

coping patterns, depression, relationship challenges, social support

Our resilience increases as we recognize the magnitude of what we have already accomplished. -Patricia O’Gorman Do you remember last December? I do, but it feels like a million years away. This has been a year of many adjustments. Only a week ago, I felt like I was staring down the barrel of another lockdown. Today, I’m still reeling, but feel a glimmer of optimism…

Can I Tell My Therapist When They Get It Wrong? The Short Answer: Yes

August 20, 2020

anxiety therapy, communication challenges, coping patterns, depression therapy, family dynamics, relationship challenges, social support, trauma therapy

I’m a therapist, but I’ve also been in and out of therapy since I was quite little. I’ve worked with some therapists that were helpful, some that were unhelpful, and some that, looking back now, I can see did more harm than good. In my teens and early 20s, what I would often do if my therapist said something that hurt me (or they seemed…

Calling Them In: Talking to Your Non-Black Parents about Anti-Black Racism

July 20, 2020

coping patterns, culturally affirming therapy, family dynamics, relationship challenges, social support

I wasn’t looking forward to Father’s Day this year. While I missed my father and planned to see him, I knew we would have to take additional precautions– wearing masks for the duration of our time together, meeting outdoors, and maintaining six feet of distance. This makes it hard to connect, especially with my children present. And given that I had been thinking about the…

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