communication challenges

Am I Codependent If I Enjoy Having My Needs Met & Meeting The Needs of Others?: Interdependence 101

February 17, 2021

communication challenges, coping patterns, family dynamics, relationship challenges, social support

What does it mean to “need” others (and to be needed in return) the exact right amount? Even though I’m a therapist myself, I’ve struggled with this in my own relationships. When I was younger, I sometimes relied on my romantic relationships for validation and sense of self, and was often crushed when I didn’t feel supported enough. Now, I’m in a different place: I’m…

How Can I Get Along With My Family This Holiday Season? Start With Acceptance

November 25, 2020

anxiety therapy, communication challenges, family dynamics, trauma

With the holidays right around the corner, and with the pandemic prompting us to recommit to social distancing, family has been on my mind a lot recently. And if your family is anything like mine, the polarization and stress of this year is making our relationships feel even more intense than usual. Everything feels heightened. It makes me think about the human proclivity towards black-and-white…

Do I Need To Go To Therapy Every Week?: 5 Reasons Why We Recommend Weekly Therapy

October 24, 2020

anxiety therapy, communication challenges, depression therapy, family dynamics, social support, trauma

My last session with a therapist was months ago. It wasn’t supposed to be months ago— at the end of our last session, I told him my schedule was tight the following week and he said, “Well, give me a call when you want to schedule something.” Even though I’m a therapist myself and I know the positive impact therapy has on my anxiety and…

Do You Worry That You’re A Burden?: 5 Tips for Learning How to Accept Help

September 18, 2020

communication challenges, family dynamics, relationship challenges, social support, work stress

“I don’t want to bother anybody.” “I don’t want to be a burden.” “I should be able to do it myself.” We are currently experiencing many layers of loss and overwhelm. For most of us, it’s a loss of normalcy in general: we don’t have the activities or the routines we’re used to. We may be feeling stretched by new work demands and remote school…

Can I Tell My Therapist When They Get It Wrong? The Short Answer: Yes

August 20, 2020

anxiety therapy, communication challenges, coping patterns, depression therapy, family dynamics, relationship challenges, social support, trauma therapy

I’m a therapist, but I’ve also been in and out of therapy since I was quite little. I’ve worked with some therapists that were helpful, some that were unhelpful, and some that, looking back now, I can see did more harm than good. In my teens and early 20s, what I would often do if my therapist said something that hurt me (or they seemed…

When They Just Get You: The Importance of Feeling Seen

February 28, 2019

communication challenges, gender identity, relationship challenges, sexuality

“He just gets me.” “I see you.” “I hear what she’s saying.” Things we say about and to our loved ones often have to do with feeling seen and heard – or not – by them. There is no feeling in the world like being in the company of someone who you feel truly gets you on a deep level. In a fast-paced, urban city…