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But What If It All Goes Right?: The Power of Imagination

When was the last time you thought about your imagination? If you’re anything like me, it may have been while playing pretend with your kids, or maybe laughing at the wild things they come up with while in imaginative play. The importance of imagination on a child’s development cannot be overemphasized. Children seem to have to play – it’s not a conscious decision they make,…
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Getting Past the Inner Critic

Can I Move Towards My Goals While Resisting Perfectionism?: Getting Past the Inner Critic

This past fall, we moved some things around in our previously neglected backyard. We thought having a dedicated play space would help our kids, as well as afford us more breathing room during the pandemic. I began starting evenings with vision boards, shopping lists, and poring over Craigslist and Facebook Marketplace for deals. I wanted to make sure anything we bought fit the greater “vision.”…
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Can I Tell My Therapist When They Get It Wrong

Can I Tell My Therapist When They Get It Wrong? The Short Answer: Yes

I’m a therapist, but I’ve also been in and out of therapy since I was quite little. I’ve worked with some therapists that were helpful, some that were unhelpful, and some that, looking back now, I can see did more harm than good. In my teens and early 20s, what I would often do if my therapist said something that hurt me (or they seemed…
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Adapting Without Acclimating

Adapting Without Acclimating: Keeping Your Imagination Alive

I visited India in my early twenties. When I first got there, I didn’t think I would be able to handle it. I had never really traveled before, and I was used to daily hot showers and sleeping in my own bed every night. Backpacking, eating unfamiliar foods, traveling by rickshaw… it was all way out of my comfort zone. Yet after a week or…
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Getting Through (Another) Day in Social Isolation

What Do You Need? Getting Through (Another) Day in Social Isolation

How did you feel when you clicked on this article? Hopeful? Anxious? Overwhelmed? My email inbox and social media feeds have been full of tips on getting through quarantine and countless examples of folks making the most of their time at home. As I scroll through sourdough bread recipes and exercise routines, I find myself feeling both overwhelmed and angry. Then I remind myself that…
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Preparing For Hard Conversations

When Your Emotions Are “Too Hot”: Preparing For Hard Conversations

Sometimes things come up in our relationships that we have to confront. This can be really heavy and scary, especially since most of us don’t enjoy conflict. Oftentimes, we either avoid it, perhaps indefinitely (like ghosting someone over text message) or, since we’re frightened of it, we try to get it over with as quickly as possible (like putting a wall up immediately, saying something…
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It’s Not All in Your Head: Why Positive Thinking May Not Always Be the Answer

Recently, I woke up thirsty in the middle of the night, and when I was getting out of bed to get water, I somehow caught my leg on the foot of the bed. I fell, and fell hard. My ankle and knee took the brunt of the fall. I consulted with a medical professional, and after confirming that the injury wasn’t too serious, I have…
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Emotional Whiplash: Self-Care in the Age of Trump

In the last two years, I’ve experienced what feels like recurring whiplash from the state of affairs in our country. The news continues to keep me reeling; and just when I think I’ve caught my breath, I’m hit with something else. I know that I’m not alone in this: a number of friends, colleagues, and clients have reported feeling similarly. Most recently, my emotional whiplash…
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Reaching Out

The Power of Reaching Out: Showing Up for Others

With the recent sudden and shocking suicides of Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade, there is a lot of talk around the power of reaching out to others and how it relates to mental health. These examples are extreme, as there’s nothing more grave than suicide, but I’ve noticed on television and in print the larger conversation around these two tragic deaths often conclude with advice…
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